First, a prediction. Three or four weeks from now many of us will be cursing that our resolutions are crashing and burning. In fact, something like 80% of resolutions will have been broken by the time we reach February. But so many of us still feel the need to commit to ‘being better’ every year.
Resolutions normally focus on one of three objectives:
1. Start doing something that doesn’t come easy to me
2. Stop doing something that makes me feel good
3. Stop avoiding something that I wish wasn’t there
Take a minute to look at your own resolutions with this lens – do they all fit loosely into one of these descriptions? When you frame your wish list like this it highlights one key message – you’re trying to do something that you either didn’t want to do or didn’t feel able to do last year. Therefore ….
YOU SHOULD EXPECT IT TO BE HARD!
So you’re trying to make a significant positive improvement in your life, and you’re expecting it to be hard. Of course, you’ll have put some serious groundwork in, right?
Many of us decide on our resolutions in the drunken haze of New Year’s Eve or, even worse, on the morning after. We don’t have a plan, we’re not really sure if we want to do it, and in many cases we’re not really feeling in any fit state to start yet!
So I’d like you to consider taking a different approach this year. Firstly, don’t worry whether it’s January 1st. You can improve yourself whenever you like – it’s not a once a year opportunity. Break the mould!
MY NEW YEAR’S REVOLUTION
For 2021 I’m committing to an alternative approach that worked well for me last year.
1. I’LL REGULARLY REVIEW HOW THINGS ARE GOING
I’m planning to find time and space to regularly review all aspects of my life. What’s going well? What do I wish was different? Where do I want to spend more time? Who do I want to be around more? I’ll do this three or four times in the year.
2. I’LL TAKE TIME OUT TO CELEBRATE WHAT I DO WELL
I’m not great at celebrating my own successes and achievements – most of us aren’t. But as a coach I see how my clients are so much more resourceful and successful when they recognize their own strengths and successes. If you’re not sure of your strengths, ask those closest to you. Some of my most successful clients keep a log of their best qualities!
3. I’LL LOOK AFTER MYSELF
I want to perform well this year (& every year). This means I need to make sure I feel fit and healthy, with all of the energy I’ll need to achieve everything I want to do. For me personally this has always translated into exercise and diet, but this year I plan to focus on my mental health too.
4. I’LL FIND WHAT HOLDS ME BACK, AND FOCUS ON CHANGING IT
We all have things that stop us from realizing our full potential. For some this might be a specific fear, for others it can be a self-confidence issue or a belief that they are just not capable of doing something. These blockers can be crippling, but when they can be lifted the future is so exciting. If you want to know more about how to do this, drop me a message.
5. I’LL BE HAPPY TO PROGRESS IN EACH OF THESE AREAS, BUT I WON’T BEAT MYSELF UP WHEN I FALL SHORT. SOMETIMES ‘GOOD ENOUGH IS GOOD ENOUGH’.
Happy New Year!